Monday, October 15, 2012

Things I am Learning

Over the last few years of running with GUTS, TNT, and on my own with other people I have met thousands of other runners and athletes.  Getting to know these people has enriched my life in several ways and one of them in particular stood out this weekend.  I am learning what I truly value in people.


The following is strictly my opinion and not that of anyone else.
It is completely acceptable to be proud of what you've accomplished and how far you've come.  In fact, I think it would be a bit strange if you weren't!  BUT:
  • Don't be an ass to other people that aren't as good as you.
  • Understand or remember that you too started somewhere.
  • Remember that life is full of ups and downs and sometimes a person isn't at their peak.
  • Though you aren't struggling right now you probably will at some point in your life...don't burn your bridges.

What the hell is this all about?
Well, I'm irked.  This weekend (let's just say) I was surrounded by 10 positive people and 1 negative ass.  It shouldn't bother me, but it does, and the actions / comments of the one negative person CRUSH the 10 positive. 
Why is this?
Not that I really care what this person thinks, but if you're going to cut me down or heckle me in front of other people you better recognize, first and foremost, where you came from. 
Remember the times we ran together as equals. 
Remember when I encouraged you AND when you once encouraged me. 
What the hell happened?

Before I go any further I have to say that there is a double-standard in effect here.  Let's just say that for example I ran 1,000 miles with person A and 100 miles with person B.  Chances are that I am going to be closer and more in-tune with person A.  I'm going to take a ribbing from person A better than person B.  Person B just doesn't know me as well as person A.  Person A is also going to know what is going on with me better than person B, and is going to be more understanding when they issue their (my well-deserved) grilling.

So, why am I so irked?  I don't know.  I think it's just their general attitude.  There are a lot of people a lot better than them BUT they don't treat me the same way at all.
Am I looking to be babied or coddled?  No way! 
Am I looking for respect?  Nope.
Understanding?  Perhaps a little.
Humility?  Bingo.

BUT, with all of that said, perhaps --> I <-- need to be more understanding that we all lose our way sometimes.  Damn, if this post didn't do exactly what I needed it to.  I'll stop here.

(Perhaps I am/was overly irritated with this person, but I am using this post to help me figure it out...comments are encouraged.)